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• Flat Fee Divorce: Is This an Option You Should Consider?
  

  I don't encourage anyone to divorce. From my experience divorce doesn't solve problems, it only adds to the problems you already have.

  In some cases a marriage is so far beyond repair, a few extra problems post divorce is no reason to stay. What do you do in today's economy where money is short and problems can seem overwhelming?

  Find yourself a Flat Fee Attorney. Instead of hiring an attorney who charges a retainer fee and high hourly rates, hire one who will take care of the divorce process, from beginning to end for one flat fee.

  When to Use a Flat Fee Attorney:

  When there is low conflict between spouses. And, nothing is better than decreasing conflict that saving money on a divorce. If your spouse seems unwilling to negotiate issues like child support and the division of marital assets suggesting a flat fee attorney may cause him/her to become more willing to negotiate. Couples who want to spend less time in court and on the divorce process benefit by hiring their own, individual flat fee attorney. You can negotiate the legal issues have your attorneys make sure your legal rights are protected, draw up the paperwork, file it with the courts and you are done.

  If you are bent and determined to divorce but can't handle those high legal fees check out a local flat fee attorney and get on with solving all those problems you'll face post-divorce.

  Flat Fee Divorce: Is This an Option You Should Consider? originally appeared on About.com Divorce Support on Wednesday, March 10th, 2010 at 17:35:59.

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• Is Avoidant Personality Disorder a Defense Mechanism That Land You in Divorce...
  

  The person with Avoidant Personality Disorder is extremely sensitive to what others think about them. So sensitive that they suffer severe anxiety at the thought of saying or doing the wrong thing.

  Most are people pleasers who bend over backwards to make others happy. The give and give and give until they have nothing left to give. In my experience, it is someone with Avoidant Personality Disorder who is more likely to experience a Midlife Crisis.

  Below are the symptoms of Avoidant Personality Disorder and an example of each behavior.

  Must Be Well Liked: This person does not become involved with others unless they know they are held in high esteem.

  An example, Jane is a fantastic cook. She takes cooking classes and delivers meals to people in need. The problem, if it doesn't have something to do with cooking Jane doesn't become involved. She only puts herself in a position to be around others who praise her and she knows, with her cooking she will always receive praise. Jane spends a lot of time alone...in her kitchen.

  Not Open to Intimate Relationships: This person fears rejection or ridicule by someone they've become romantically...post continued

  Is Avoidant Personality Disorder a Defense Mechanism That Land You in Divorce Court? originally appeared on About.com Divorce Support on Sunday, March 7th, 2010 at 08:00:40.

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• Buidling Trust Through Marital Communication
  

  Do you keep things from your spouse, not communicate for fear of being rejected or dismissed? You can't bond appropriately with your spouse if you are not willing to open up and allow them to know you, to get close to you and who you are. Trust comes from allowing your spouse to know you inside and out and your spouse reciprocating.

  Communication is an important way to relieve stress and build a healthier bond between couples. If you don't feel comfortable communicating with your spouse this could be a sign that you feel a lack of trust in your spouse. A marriage can't survive where there are issues of trust.

  Few marriages avoid marital problems that violate trust. If you are married, you will have marital problems. The key to working through and maintaining a healthy level of trust is...post continued

  Buidling Trust Through Marital Communication originally appeared on About.com Divorce Support on Friday, March 5th, 2010 at 16:12:20.

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• Setting Boundaries With The Midlife Crisis Spouse
  

  The concept of "boundaries," what they are and how to implement them can be confusing. I remember having a Home Economics teacher in High School who told the class that when you marry, you and your spouse become one.

  Even at 17 years old I knew there was no way I could "become one" with another human being. That I had a sense of self and giving up that would be detrimental emotionally. Often in marriage the lines are skewed, one spouse's sense of self becomes entangled with that of their spouse.

  It is easy to lose sight of what is oneself and what isn't oneself. In other words, couples tend to take on responsibilities for the other that are not theirs to take on. They become enmeshed emotionally and there are no boundaries that protect each from the other's hurtful behavior.

  Below Are A Few Suggestions For Setting Boundaries With Your Midlife Crisis Spouse:

  Your spouse is an individual who takes responsibility for his/her own behaviors. Once you define what you are responsible for and what he/she is responsible for you no longer have to own anyone's behaviors but your own.

  For example, if your midlife crisis spouse is drinking heavily and allowing it to interfere his/her ability to work it is not your responsibility to cover for him/her. When a spouse goes through a midlife crisis it is easy to enable their bad behavior by...continue post

  Setting Boundaries With The Midlife Crisis Spouse originally appeared on About.com Divorce Support on Monday, March 1st, 2010 at 22:22:33.

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• How to Survive Your Spouse's Midlife Crisis
  

  Some people manage to navigate a midlife crisis, learn from it and move on to a more rewarding life. Then there are those who turn into a person you don't know, take up with another man/woman and inflict enormous pain on their family.

  Whether your spouse works through their midlife crisis without doing much harm or turns into a bull in a china shop and destroys everything, they will go through changes. Changes that will leave you confused and wondering what you can do to help yourself and your spouse and hopefully save your marriage.

  This article is about helping yourself survive your spouse's midlife crisis. If it helps your spouse, great. If it saves your marriage, great. The only way you are going to be of any help to your spouse or possibly save your marriage is to learn how you can navigate their crisis without it costing you too much emotionally.

  Focus On Yourself And Your Children:

  It may seem impossible to not try to control your spouse's actions during a midlife crisis. You aren't doing your spouse or yourself any favor when you become obsessed with what they are doing or thinking. You have no control over what your spouse does or doesn't do. You do, however have complete control over what you do or don't do.

  So, take my advice and focus on things that are within your control. If you are over-thinking your spouse's problems, you are filling your head with...post continued

  How to Survive Your Spouse's Midlife Crisis originally appeared on About.com Divorce Support on Sunday, February 28th, 2010 at 22:13:55.

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• High divorce rates and teen pregnancy are worse in conservative states than l...
  Ask most people about the differences between families who live in ?red? (conservative) states and ?blue? (liberal) states, and you?ll hear a common refrain: Massachusetts and California are hotbeds of divorce and teen pregnancy, while Nebraska and Texas are havens of virtue and stability.
  
  
• Missing Woman Doesn't Want to See Dad (ABC News)
  The California woman who was found last week after going missing 14 years ago at age 8 has no interest in reuniting with her father, police said today. "Jessica is very adamant about not seeing him," Walnut Creek, Calif., police Det. Shawn Wallace said of the woman known as Jessica Click-Hill, 22. California - Walnut Creek California - Police - Shawn Wallace - Walnut Creek
  
  
• San Pedro community activist Juanita Chavez dies (Daily Breeze)
  Juanita Chavez, a San Pedro attorney and community leader who with her husband launched the lengthy effort to light up the Vincent Thomas Bridge, died this week.
  
  
• Building a Niche with Divorced Clients (Financial Planning.com)
  Lili A. Vasileff was in the midst of her own divorce, sitting in a circle of women at a support group, when she realized that few in the group understood the financial decisions they were making.
  
  
• Making legal aid more accessible and affordable (Washington Post)
  It's time to make it more accessible and affordable.
  
  

• Strip Items - The Keene Sentinel
  I?m pretty sure there?s not been any litigation in a California divorce where they?ve spent so much on attorneys? fees,? said Lynn Soodik, a Santa Monica family law attorney who represented Meg Ryan in her divorce from Dennis Quaid.
  
  
• Winner of McCourts' Divorce? The Couple's Lawyers - FanHouse
  I'm pretty sure there's not been any litigation in a California divorce where they've spent so much on attorneys' fees," said Lynn Soodik, a Santa Monica family law attorney who represented Meg Ryan in her divorce from Dennis Quaid. Frank McCourt ...
  
  
• High cost of McCourts' divorce: $19 million in fees - Los Angeles Times
  I'm pretty sure there's not been any litigation in a California divorce where they've spent so much on attorneys' fees," said Lynn Soodik, a Santa Monica family law attorney who represented Meg Ryan in her divorce from Dennis Quaid. Soodik said it ...
  
  
• MLB: High cost of McCourts' divorce: $19 million in ... - Honolulu Advertiser
  I'm pretty sure there's not been any litigation in a California divorce where they've spent so much on attorneys' fees," said Lynn Soodik, a Santa Monica family law attorney who represented Meg Ryan in her divorce from Dennis Quaid. Soodik said it ...
  
  
• NBey6's Blog - Lottery Post
  I'm pretty sure there's not been any litigation in a California divorce where they've spent so much on attorneys' fees," said Lynn Soodik, a Santa Monica family law attorney who represented Meg Ryan in her divorce from Dennis Quaid. Soodik said it ...
  
  

• High cost of McCourts' divorce: $19 million in fees - Los Angeles Times
  
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  High cost of McCourts' divorce: $19 million in fees
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  "I've been practicing law in California for 42 years," Wasser said. "I've never seen the kind of factual data that's involved in this case. ...
  Winner of McCourts' Divorce? The Couple's LawyersFanHouse
  The McCourt Divorce Brings A Hefty Price Tag - Who Pays?True Blue LA (blog)
  McCourts To Spend $19 Million on DivorceNBC Los Angeles
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• Legal Questions about Toyota? Listen In and Call Up. - InjuryBoard.com (blog)
  
  Legal Questions about Toyota? Listen In and Call Up.
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  We also talk about a wide range of other topics, from medical malpractice to real estate law to divorce law. If you have a question about any legal topic, ...
  
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• Love, etc: Shaq and Shaunie O'Neal finalize divorce - Washington Post (blog)
  
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  Love, etc: Shaq and Shaunie O'Neal finalize divorce
  Washington Post (blog)
  ... Sorrell Trope, tells the celebrity Web site that Florida judges will issue the divorce decree and handle any future property issues; California, ...
  Shaq and Wife Reach Divorce SettlementTMZ.com (blog)
  Shaquille O'Neal Reaches Divorce Settlement with Wife.Player Press
  Shaquille O'Neal's Divorce FinalizedDivorce Diva
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• Tenets of divorce that define alimony, more - Times of India
  
  Tenets of divorce that define alimony, more
  Times of India
  Divorce in India is governed by different laws for different communities. The Hindu Marriage Act,1955,governs divorce for all Hindus, Sikhs, Buddhists and ...
  
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• Missing Woman Has No Interest in Reuniting With Father After 14 Years - ABC News
  
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  Missing Woman Has No Interest in Reuniting With Father After 14 Years
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  Click-Hill was found last week after her mother, Wendy Hill, allegedly abducted her 14 years ago after a divorce and custody battle with Click. ...
  
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