Confronting Affair Partners

Well here’s a juicy topic. Many divorces are caused because one spouse is unfaithful. This is one of the hardest pills to swallow for anyone and it can come with a lot of challenging decisions. For example, you may have the opportunity to confront the person your spouse cheated on you with. This is a bad idea. We know you want to tell them off and give them a piece of your mind, but here’s why HuffPost divorce says you shouldn’t:

1) They have no shame.You might already know this but haven’t thought it all the way through. Do you think that reminding them that your spouse is married is going to all of a sudden make them feel terrible? They know what they did and they made a conscious decision to do it– probably many times. By yelling and cursing at them to make them feel bad, you’ll probably just make them think, “He/she was right… that person is crazy.” Take the higher ground. On the other hand, if you try to confront them by pulling at the decency they must have, they’ll revel in their superiority. You’ll look like you’re simply begging for your¬†marriage¬†back. It’s not a good look and won’t be received well by someone who doesn’t mind being a home wrecker.

2) They might be crazy. To take part in an affair you have to be desperate or narcissistic. Desperate people do desperate things, and narcissists don’t think the rules apply to them. This is not someone you want to pick a fight with.

3) You’d be giving your spouse an ego boost! That may sound odd, but it’s probably true. Your spouse will probably get excited over the fact that two people are now fighting over him/her. But that won’t necessarily make him/her love you more. Don’t be fooled.

If you think you’ll get more info from the affair partner, reconsider that. It may not be info you actually need, and it may all be complete lies. You’ll have no way of knowing. Just don’t get there.