Coping with Anger

Seething anger has a way of eating us up inside. Instead of making things better, it just makes us bitter.  It’s natural to have some angry feelings over a failed marriage and possible a messy divorce, but if you hold on to that anger it can usurp your life and affect your children in a negative manner.

Understanding how to deal with your anger so that it doesn’t cause you more heartache is an important skill to develop. First of all, think before you speak or act. Reacting impulsively can be dangerous. Next, set some limits for yourself and others in your relationships; know when to speak when to be quiet, and when to walk away.
Amy Sherman, Rosalind Sedacca, and LHMC have given us a self-assessment to aid us in anger management
1.     Do inconsequential things upset me? Does this happen more now after the divorce?
2.     Is my behavior inconsistent? Do people comment on my reactions to similar circumstances, saying sometimes I’m low key, and sometimes riled?
3.     Is my anger displaced? Am I lashing out and hurting people closest to me? Do I find that they want to spend less time with me since the divorce?
If you answered, “yes”, to any of these questions there are online courses that can help you with your anger management. In addition, Orange County and L. A. County have therapists that specialize in post-divorce difficulties including dealing with anger.