Game Detects Cheating Spouse

Imagine a world with a game that could detect a cheater. What a world that would be. A recent LinkedIn post we stumbled upon provided this fake scenario: Imagine a game that is essentially a headset that could detect when you see something personal. It would show you pictures of ten kids, one of them being your own. Before your brain could even realize that it...

Common Divorce Questions

A guest post from Dr. Kristine Turner: I was recently asked to answer a few questions by a reporter who was doing a piece for a publication, and I realized that these are often the types of questions society has about divorce. They are typically asked by folks who like to judge, but haven’t actually experienced divorce themselves. Here are some researched...

Online Dating Tips

So much of dating post-divorce is online these days. Technology has made it easier to talk to and flirt with many people at one time. The older you get, the more you feel like you might be the “only” single person around, and online dating can help prove that to be false. But many of us who are recently divorced didn’t date online before we got...

Keys to Trust in a Post-Divorce Relationship

A guest post from Dr. Karen Finn… You’ve probably heard recommendations from other experts about how long you need to wait after divorce before you start dating.  These other experts recommend that you wait anywhere from just 1 year to 1 year for every 4 years you were married. I disagree with these one-size-fits-all recommendations.  I believe that...

Marriage The Second Time Around

Lisa Arends, a wellness coach and contributor to Huffington Post, describes her experience with living as a divorcee and as an engaged woman, simultaneously.  Being in limbo between the past and present makes her feel that her identity is a little hazed.  While being divorced from her ex-husband helped mold her into who she is today, there is so much more to...

Dating During Divorce

Many people believe that you should wait until you’re officially no longer married before you start dating. We have discussed dating post-divorce many times on this blog and we wanted to share a new perspective: dating during divorce. We’re not saying you have to go as far as getting pregnant and practically re-engaged while still married (i.e.- Kim...

Divorce Is Not a Failure

It’s easy to think of divorce as failure in your life. You made the lifelong commitment and you weren’t able to stick to, so you failed… right? We do learn our most important life lessons from the big mistakes. However, for someone reason we forget to see divorce as a stepping stone to something better (like we would with an ended career,...

Your Friend’s Divorcing, Will That Affect Your Marriage?

California Divorce News: Have you every known “the perfect couple?” I’m talking about the couple that always seems happy, seems to have it all together and makes every other couple around them jealous? Well if the that couple divorces, it sends everyone in a whirlwind. If you’ve seen it, you know what I’m talking about. People start...

Is Your Next Marriage Destined for Divorce?

California Family Law Article: Divorce statistics from Divorcesource.com show that an increasing number of remarriages end up in divorce.  A first marriage has a 40%-50% divorce rate whereas a second marriage divorce rate rises to 60%-67% and a third marriage increases to a 70%-73% divorce rate.  Remember, these are only statistics of a cumulative whole and...

Divorce Party

A guest post from Dr. Karen Finn… ….. We do a lot of celebrating to commemorate important milestones in life.  We celebrate births with birthdays.  We celebrate completion of educational milestones with graduations.  We celebrate marriages with weddings and showers and engagement parties.  We even celebrate a person’s life after their gone...

Men: How to Fail at Dating Post-Divorce

Dating is a challenge. “Back in the day” it was tough just to find the right girl at the party to talk to and say the right thing to start a conversation. The college days of dating were hard enough, but unfortunately it’s even harder later in life… especially after you’ve already been married once. Many divorcees feel clueless...

Divorce is Not the End of Your Relationship

A dissolution of marriage does not end the relationship between you and your former spouse. Rather, it begins a new, and often painful process of restructuring your relationship. working together, you can create a new relationship as friends and Co-parents of your children. This process, however, requires time. You should be aware of the various stages which may...

Making Changes

Divorce is all about change — some negative, and some positive. How you look and feel physically can have a considerable impact on your emotional state; here’s how to use a healthy diet, exercise, and maybe even cosmetic surgery to make a change for the better. Except for the death of a spouse or child, divorce produces more stress than any other...

Discovering Your Single Identity

After a breakup, you have the opportunity and freedom to become who you wish to become. You should use this opportunity, no matter how negative its origins, to resurrect your identity and exercise freedom of choice. Seize the chance to create and learn, and use your experiences as a means of building something new. If you consider it in the most basic of terms,...

Creating a Satisfying Life

Contrary to what you might believe, personal happiness is not dependent on life dealing you a good hand. How you respond to what comes your way will largely determine whether your life is fulfilling or not; here’s how to move from dissatisfaction to real satisfaction. The breakdown of a marriage is one of the most traumatic things that can happen in your...

Divorce as Friends

…and maybe even save your marriage.  Editor’s Note: This article is not geared towards those in abusive relationships; being nicer to your abuser is unlikely to have a positive result. What you can do, however, is to take responsibility for being in the relationship, and for ending it in a way that is safe and works for both you and your kids (if...

Love, Money and the Blended Family

Statistics say that one in two marriages end in divorce. This sociological earthquake has left the old-style nuclear family in ruins — but what effect is it having on the economics of love? I really hate this, but I end up having to sign checks to pay Colin’s ex-wife’s mortgage,” complains Sara. “We make O.K. money — enough...

10 Things Your Mother Never Told You About Divorce

10 Things Your Mother Never Told You About Divorce

The Voice of Experience For anyone who hasn’t been divorced, trust me— divorce is never what you imagine it to be. Here are a few insights that may hopefully save you a trip to court— or at the very least, give you some idea of what may lie ahead. I know the 10 things listed here might not apply to everybody (there’s always going to be the...