Divorce is a difficult experience to go through, especially for women and children.  A sensitive issue like divorce is a lot to handle for women and children, who are emotionally inclined.  Some advice from Legal-yogi.com can be a helpful resource to ease the sudden instability of your marriage. One crucial piece of advice is to find a trustworthy divorce...

Studies completed by Dr. Joanne Rocklin, who works with divorcing couples, clearly show that whether the family is divorced or intact, continued parental conflict is the most harmful aspect to children of any age. Children whose parents frequently argue in front of them often are less socially competent than their peers and get lower grades in school. Too often...

One Child’s Tale of Growing up in a Divorced Home By Anonymous When Dr. Shulman first approached me to write this article I was flooded with many different thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Do I really want to relive this terror? How will this help me in the future? What’s in the past is the past! As I started to think about my task, I must admit...

Question: I’ve been considering divorce for a long time. What kind of effect will it have on my children? Answer: Divorce is a very serious decision that will have lasting effects on your children. The data from studies show that divorce can lead to depression, anxiety, behavioral problems at school, and relationship problems in the future. In addition,...

Question: When is the best time for me to get a divorce? Should I wait for my child to get older so that he can understand why I’m choosing this option? Answer: There is no easy answer for this question. You need to be the judge. Data shows that children who grow up in a hostile, aggressive, conflict filled, and stressful environment may be worse off than...

Question: What are some signs that my child needs professional help in coping with our divorce? Answer: All children are affected by divorce, but each deals with the stress differently. Your task as a parent is to identify and differentiate between your child’s “normal” behavior and sudden behavioral changes. In addition, identify if these...

Whatever your differences may be, can you and your spouse agree that you don’t want to hurt your children? Will you and your spouse work together to make the process as easy as possible for them? When the decision has been made to separate, even the most caring parents are not totally rational. It’s hard to be supportive and available to your...

Children need to know why the divorce is occurring so they don’t blame themselves. Finding the right words is not always easy. Be sure your children are told that: THEY DID NOT CAUSE THE DIVORCE… NOR COULD THEY HAVE PREVENTED IT! Your tone and your words make a difference. Try to explain the reasons without anger and harshness in your voice. If a parent...

When parents decide to divorce, they typically have been through a series of events that have led them to this decision. Whether or not children are aware of parents’ decisions depends on many things, including parents’ behaviors and children’s experiences. In some families, husbands and wives may argue frequently in front of the children,...

Children’s understanding of parental divorce depends on their age. It is important for parents to know what thoughts and feelings children of different ages may be having so that they can modify their own behaviors to help children adjust to the divorce. INFANTS Understandings Infants notice changes in parents’ energy level and emotional...

Going through the process of divorce is a challenging life transition for both parents and children. During their parents’ divorce, children often feel a wide variety of conflicting emotions. It is very important for parents to provide their children with understanding and support. This guide provides ideas for many activities parents can do to support...

When parents divorce, brothers and sisters may begin to interact differently. While some siblings become closer at this time, others may argue more and become emotionally distant. It is difficult to predict how children will respond in any particular family. The emotional stress that parents feel following divorce may temporarily reduce the amount of attention...

Children’s books about divorce can help them work through the issues they face. Reading books can give children a way to express their emotions and discuss issues that they may not otherwise be comfortable talking about. Parents also may benefit from these books by learning common things that children of divorce experience. It’s not your fault, KoKo...

The Custody Evaluation Legal and Practical Context Context The custody evaluation is often referred to as a “730 Evaluation.” This is because the respective section of the Evidence Code authorizes a judge to order such an evaluation. A custody evaluation can be: Agreed to by the parties and their attorneys (legally referred to as “by...

In a previous article, I explained the legal context within which a custody evaluation is ordered or agreed to, how the evaluator is selected, and what how the evaluation is handled once it is received by the court. In this article, I will describe the custody evaluation process. However, before beginning, I would like to remind the reader that most parents,...