Divorce is a very stressful event in your life and only you have the power to decide its impact on your future. Change Your Point of View The divorce does not have power over your thoughts, perceptions, and choices; you do. Instead of staying sad or angry, look at this phase as a new beginning. Look At the Good Things About Your Decision Since the divorce...

The Voice of Experience For anyone who hasn’t been divorced, trust me— divorce is never what you imagine it to be. Here are a few insights that may hopefully save you a trip to court— or at the very least, give you some idea of what may lie ahead. I know the 10 things listed here might not apply to everybody (there’s always going to be the...

Being a divorced father has a great deal of internalized stress associated with it. There’s a strong desire to make your children like you and want to spend time with you, especially if you only get to see them a few days a month. Studies show that what kids remember growing up is not the extravagant birthday parties or the expensive vacations. It’s...

Encourage your children to talk openly about their feelings Emphasize that the divorce was not their fault Understand that your children’s behavior may reflect feelings of anger, fear, confusion, sadness and loss. Validate their feelings, allow them to be angry with you Be honest with your children about the finality of divorce according to what is age...

The wife may not be able to keep the house. The husband may need to share his pension. In divvying up household items, you may not be able to keep your favorite painting or casserole dish. You may not have as much money as you want, need, or used to have. You may have to set up a visitation schedule for your family pet. The kids will go to your ex for...

The following has been reprinted with permission from The Road to Resilience, a brochure put out by The American Psychological Association (APA). Whether going through a divorce, loss of a job, serious illness, or other difficult times, how we respond to these experiences can enable us to more effectively manage these situations. What enables people to deal with...

 Do not criticize your former spouse in front of the child. Do not argue with your former spouse in your children’s presence. Be careful not to argue during exchanges of the child. Don’t discuss adult issues such as finances or the details of divorce case in your child’s presence. You should never use your children to deliver messages, money, or...