Holidays: How to WIN

A recent blog post from the authors of Love for Grown Ups discusses a few tips that you can use to not feel like a loser this holiday season. We’ve highlighted a few below: Find out which days you have the kids ASAP. You don’t want to cook a wonderful Christmas dinner and find out the kids aren’t coming. You also don’t want to plan a trip...

Post-Divorce Custody Litigation?

Should I Litigate against my former spouse to gain custody over my children? A guest post by Dr. Kristine Turner… In high conflict cases where parents don’t see eye to eye, where litigation is used, no matter what plan is ordered one of the parents is likely to be unhappy with it. Parents tend to blame each other for their child(ren)’s...

What can I expect when deciding custody or parenting time for my child?

A guest post from Dr. Kristine Turner… Every family that divorces has to deal with where the children will reside. It’s a very difficult question, and it’s a question that causes many people a great deal of pain and consternation. Child custody or parenting time, as it is called in some states, is big business in this country. There are...

What Can I Expect When Deciding Child Custody

A guest post from Dr. Kristine Turner… What can I expect when deciding custody or parenting time for my child? Every family that divorces has to deal with where the children will reside. It’s a very difficult question, and it’s a question that causes many people a great deal of pain and consternation. Child custody or parenting time, as it is...

Focus on the Kids!

Almost everyone knows someone who has experienced their parents getting a divorce. The breakup of a family is always challenging and emotional. It’s tough on everyone and the children often feel that their whole world is coming apart. How to help your children get through this life altering transition is critical to their well being. The most important thing...

Positive Aspects of Single Parenting

Most people agree that having a mom and a dad who love and support each other and their children is the best scenario for a family. However, single parenting does not mean unsuccessful parenting; myriads of children raised by a single parent are living rich, full, and successful lives. If you find yourself alone caring for your children, remember there are some...

Co-Parenting Successfully

Being a parent is the most demanding, most rewarding, and most important job in the world. We get very little, if any, training for the position. Ideally there are two parents working together to help carry the load. Even when the parents live in the same house it is exhausting and difficult. Things get even more challenging when there is a divorce or...

Steve Harvey’s Divorce Tips

Steve Harvey is a popular daytime talk show host that is well-respected. He recently earned a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, and he shares his top 5 divorce tips. These tips are in regard to parenting and divorce with children involved… which we all know can be a huge challenge. We were curious to see what Steve would have to say. What do you think of...

Mother’s Day for Single Moms

This past weekend was Mother’s Day.  It is a day to celebrate all the hard work our moms put into making us grow up to be noble citizens of society.  We oftentimes overlook all the things our moms do in order to maintain a stable and healthy family.  The sacrifices our moms took, even before we are birthed, can be easily taken for granted.  Therefore, it...

Co-Parenting Post-Divorce

The challenge of co-parenting arises from honest communication between you and your former spouse.  Trust acts as the glue that keeps both parents sincere about co-parenting.  One of the main components of success in co-parenting is when you and your spouse “both deeply care about your children and want to continue raising them in the least-disruptive...

Three Scenarios Where You Should Consider Hiring a Child Custody Expert

In divorce cases with contested child custody issues, a child custody expert may be a powerful tool to help the Courts and the Parents protect the children and develop a parenting plan that is in their best interests. You may wish to discuss the possibility of retaining a child custody expert with your divorce lawyer in one of the following three scenarios: 1....

Tips for Dads: Child Custody

Men and women have different struggles with child custody during a divorce or separation. Most men know the amount of time they wish to spend with their children, but they’re not aware of the many different types of custody and issues related to them. In fact, some men use the term “custody” to refer to anything related to the children in a...

What Will Children Remember About Your Divorce?

You may think that young children will not remember their parents going through a divorce. However, Erin Mantz recently shared a different insight in a HuffPost Divorce article we thought we’d discuss here. Mantz states that divorce mostly affects those under five years of age.  Due to the change to family structure, kids are more likely to develop...

Children and Divorce: Commonly Asked Questions

A guest post from Dr. Kristine Turner:   When do we tell our children we’re divorcing? It’s important to make sure that the decision to divorce is final before telling your children about the divorce.  The mistake that some people make is to tell their children they’re going to get a divorce when they’re not sure the divorce will...

Divorce: How to Break It to Your Children

Divorce rates are at an all-time high in California with numbers rising in Los Angeles and Orange County.  Where there are more marriages going through divorces, there are more children brought onto the emotional rollercoaster. Our best advice for parents in this situation is to have the children always understand they are unconditionally loved and they are not...

Child Custody

Few issues in dissolution of marriage are more emotionally charged than the issue of child custody. The court is customarily charged with determining what is in the best interest of the child. In a contest between two parents, the outcome determinative question is whether it is in the best interest of the child to be placed with mom, or with dad primarily and...

California Support Calculator

The courts have official programs that they use to determine support, and these approved programs are the only support calculations admissible in court. Please visit the Dishon & Block California Support...

Child Support Calculator

Child Support Calculator

The courts have official programs that they use to determine support, and these approved programs are the only support calculations admissible in court. Please visit the Dishon & Block California Support...

Enforcement Of Orders

Enforcement Of Orders

Many remedies are available to enforce court orders, both with respect to custody, as well as with respect to child and spousal support orders. Some of the most common of these remedies include: Contempt: A party subject to a valid order who with knowledge of the order and the ability to comply with the order, fails to comply with the terms of the order, is...

Modification of Orders

Under California Law, certain orders may be modified after a final judgment has been made. There are three areas in which post-judgment modifications are commonplace– Child Custody/Visitation Orders, Child Support orders, and Spousal Support orders. The court will not Modify the Property Division that has been Adjudicated by a Final Judgment, however,...

What You Should Know About Wage Withholding

Federal and California law both require that all orders regarding child support include an order for a wage assignment. This requirement is designed to ensure prompt payment of child support. A wage withholding or wage assignment is utilized to deduct court-ordered child support from a party, generally the non-custodial parent. Once the employer receives Notice...

Physical vs. Legal Custody

People frequently ask about the difference between Physical and Legal Custody. Physical custody: Physical custody refers to that parent or parents who has the physical responsibility for the care of the child. Joint physical custody” means that each of the parents shall have significant periods of physical custody, although parents can share joint custody...

The Move-Away Cases

You Can’t Just Pick Up And Move Any Longer In recent years, under the case Marriage of Burgess, the “primary custodial parent” had the presumptive right to re-locate to a different geographic area with the minor children. However, under a recent California Supreme Court case, in Marriage of LaMusga (pronounced “La Moo-shay”), has...

Re-Establishing Visitation

It’s a safe bet that every parent wanted to be with his or her children during this past holiday season.  Unfortunately, it is just as certain that many were unable to be with their children because of a one-sided custody arrangement. As usual, I received many calls from parents asking for advise as to what they could do to re-establish a regular custody...

730 Psychological Evaluations

Frequently a psychological evaluation and more in depth study is conducted. The psychological evaluator then submits each of the parents and perhaps the child or children to a battery of psychological tests as well as clinical observations. The determination is made first as to whether either parent suffers from any psychological dysfunction. Then, the...

Domestic Violence And Custody

Under a California (Family Code Section 3044) the state states policy regarding custody and domestic violence. Under the law, if the court finds a party to have been a perpetrator of Domestic Violence within the past 5 years there is a very strong presumption that the perpetrator should not share Physical or Legal Custody with the victim-parent. Thus, if the...

Child Abduction

What Is Child Abduction? A child abduction occurs when someone takes, entices away, keeps, withholds or conceals a child in violation of a custody or visitation order. Can A Family Member Abduct Their Own Child? Yes. Not only does child abduction involve violation of Family Court, Juvenile Court and/or Probate Court orders, but it also involves a FELONY...

Credible Data in Custody and Access Disputes

Many persons start with the premise that if you tell your story often enough, it must be true. Hence in bolstering child custody and access claims, some parties and lawyers run about gathering as many affidavits and one-sided opinions as possible. Trouble is, most are not worth the paper they are printed on. Even reports from expert sources may not be credible...

Let Go To Win – Child Custody Disputes

Monkey hunters have an ingenious way to trap their prey. They carve a small hole into a gourd and then hollow it out. Into the gourd they place a small piece of fruit or some nuts. They strap the gourd to a tree and then wait. In a little while a monkey shows up and sniffs at the bait. The monkey then squeezes its hand into the gourd and grasps the bait. With...

Custody Evaluation

The Custody Evaluation Legal and Practical Context Context The custody evaluation is often referred to as a “730 Evaluation.” This is because the respective section of the Evidence Code authorizes a judge to order such an evaluation. A custody evaluation can be: Agreed to by the parties and their attorneys (legally referred to as “by...

The Custody Evaluation Process

In a previous article, I explained the legal context within which a custody evaluation is ordered or agreed to, how the evaluator is selected, and what how the evaluation is handled once it is received by the court. In this article, I will describe the custody evaluation process. However, before beginning, I would like to remind the reader that most parents,...

Separated Parents In Dispute: Don’t Drag In Your Service Providers!

Separated parents in high conflict have a way of dragging others into their child custody and/or access dispute. Not just family friends, and neighbours, but every professional associated with the children. The parents seek to bolster their claims to support their custody and access position and believe letters of support from their professional service...

How Do You Rate Your Separation?

When parents separate, they worry about the effect of their separation on the kids. Not only is there data to suggest that adults whose parents separated when they were children are at greater risk of divorce themselves, but also data that suggests the greater the parental conflict during separation, the greater the likelihood of negative outcomes for the...